The message of Christianity is that death doesn’t have the final word. Life comes out of death. Jesus said,
…unless a kernel of wheat falls to the ground and dies, it remains only a single seed. But if it dies, it produces many seeds. (John 12:24)
Jesus came into the world and experienced loss, loneliness, rejection, abandonment, betrayal and ultimately death on the cross. God the Father, also experienced loss. The loss of his son.
But the message of the cross is that death doesn’t have the final word. Life comes out of death.
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! (2 Corinthians 5:17)
As you pay attention and live in the in-between, the old will birth the new.
As you die and surrender to God, your life will come back, in resurrected form. Your faith will be renewed, your identity will become more clear. You’ll be more resilient and more compassionate because you’ve learned to grieve well.